An Unholy Alliance
The insights that John Eldredge brings this morning encapsulates not only the reason for a woman’s attempt to “save herself,” but also for a man. We all are fall into the trap of self-protection or offensive behavior, especially after deep hurt has occurred. May the insights you are about to read, help you to break through the barriers of unbelief—if we humble ourselves, God will lift us up.
An Unholy
12/30/2007
Over the years we’ve come to see that the only thing more tragic than the things that have happened to us is what we have done with them.
Words were said, painful words. Things were done, awful things. And they shaped us. Something inside us shifted. We embraced the messages of our wounds. We accepted a twisted view of ourselves. And from that we chose a way of relating to our world. We made a vow never to be in that place again. We adopted strategies to protect ourselves from being hurt again. A woman that is living out of a broken, wounded heart is a woman who is living a self-protective life. She may not be aware of it, but it is true. It’s our way of trying to “save ourselves.”
We also developed ways of trying to get something of the love our hearts cried out for. The ache is there. Our desperate need for love and affirmation, our thirst for some taste of romance and adventure and beauty is there. So we turned to boys or to food or to romance novels; we lost ourselves in our work or at church or in some sort of service. All this adds up to the woman we are today. Much of what we call our “personalities” is actually the mosaic of our choices for self-protection plus our plan to get something of the love we were created for.
The problem is, our plan has nothing to do with God.
The wounds we received and the messages they brought formed a sort of unholy alliance with our fallen nature as women. From Eve we received a deep mistrust in the heart of God toward us. Clearly, he’s holding out on us. We’ll just have to arrange for the life we want. We will control our world. But there is also an ache deep within, an ache for intimacy and for life. We’ll have to find a way to fill it. A way that does not require us to trust anyone, especially God. A way that will not require vulnerability.
(Captivating , 74–75)
From The Ransomed Heart, by John Eldredge, reading 364
Ransomed Heart Ministries www.ransomedheart.com
posted by The Lamplighter | 7:41 AM
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Isaiah 61:1-4
“The Spirit of the Lord GOD is upon Me,
Because the LORD has anointed Me
To preach good tidings to the poor;
He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted,
To proclaim liberty to the captives,
And the opening of the prison to those who are bound;
To proclaim the acceptable year of the LORD,
And the day of vengeance of our God;
To comfort all who mourn,
To console those who mourn in Zion,
To give them beauty for ashes,
The oil of joy for mourning,
The garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness;
That they may be called trees of righteousness,
The planting of the LORD, that He may be glorified.”
And they shall rebuild the old ruins,
They shall raise up the former desolations,
And they shall repair the ruined cities,
The desolations of many generations.
edit it if you want to post it..but this came to me as I was reading...a blast from the past
"Children should be able to expect to be loved. Period. They are entitled to be loved without having everything taken from them-without having anything taken from them. They deserve to learn that it is safe to be dependent. And they should experience having their needs met without tradeoffs or paybacks.".. yesterday when I read in the Grace chapter .." Humility requires trust. Humility believes that what God and others have to to teach me is worthy of my dependent trust.." TrueFaced.. Ch 7..I had not read that chapter until this morning...it talks about Love...Love being the first gift of grace.. and the tag saying " Take it , apply it, and trust me to make it real." .
To hear with my heart
To see with my soul
To be guided by a hand I cannot hold
To trust in a way what I cannot see
That's what faith must be...
Michael Card..
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