Wife Not Willing to Follow
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There is so much going on in your life but it all comes down to a life of brokenness. Psalm 34 gives clear direction: "this poor man cried and the Lord heard and delivered him out of all his troubles." If you read this Psalm you will find that David says this three times. ______ , all of life is a test and is intended to break us of ourselves so that Christ might be able to live through us. It is obvious that Christ is not yet at home in you. It has been 26 years for me, and I am still learning...oh to be dead of self!
______ there is so much I could say but I will say just a few things that might be able to help. First concerning your wife . She needs to see that you have her best interest in mind. She is the type of woman (yes very strong) that needs to be approached with yielded gentleness. She doesn't believe that you have her best interest in mind and when she feels threatened or her children threatened she resists strongly. This is NOT an assault against you as you see it. This is a God-given protective measure within her--it is within all woman, especially when they have been through so many failed relationships. As men, we need to have our wives best interest in mind and their children. Once they see this and believe it, then they they are more willing to yield to our leading. It seems like you were trying to put the cart ahead of the horse with your son. You probably need to focus on helping your son out as much as possible and then focus on _____. Again, you need to stop the divorce proceedings, focus on your life, and then help your wife to see that her heart is important to you. The car issue is the same problem. I am certain that she would gladly work with you on a trade in etc. if she believed that you had her best interest in mind. Once a woman sees and believes this, they will follow, but not until.
Do this God's way and you too will experience what David experienced--"delivered from all his troubles."!
Let me know if I can help,
Mark
